Finding Love When You Don't Have Time


There are lots of people in the world.  We see them everyday, passing in cars, on sidewalks, in buses, shopping malls, you get the idea.  You lock eyes with someone, and entertain the idea of connecting with people again.

There are loads of statistics totaling the number of people who are using online dating, personals, adult dating services, niche dating sites, and the numbers are amazing.

The societal reasons for this fury of activity are profound, and it is surprising online dating didn't take off sooner.  Americans are marrying later and less likely to meet their spouses in high school or college.  They spend much of their lives at work, the rise in sexual harassment suits has made workplace relationships tricky at best.  Due to a more mobile population, social institutions like, churches and clubs have faded in importance.  This often leaves "bar scene" as a source of potential mates.

The maturing of the first generation of kids to use the Internet find online dating as natural as using a lung to suck air.  They get jobs, apartments and plane tickets online --why not dates.

There are still some who feel that online dating is for the desperate and less desirable, and maybe for those who thrive on selling themselves.

The defining fact of online dating is that it begins outside any context - historical, temporal, physical.  To compensate dating sites offer the old-fashioned comfort of facts:  income, life goals, tastes in music, attitudes toward having children-the sorts of things you might wonder about a stranger you locked eyes with. There is neither "good or bad", just a natural extension of our historical and technological landscape.  You might wonder, how do they work and how is the way they work changing the nature of courtship?